About a decade ago, the Law of Attraction and how to manifest anything you want was all the rage. I couldn't do it no matter how hard I believed, thought, stayed positive, and made a vision board...no dice. I was still broke, single and unhappy.
The key was, "yes," thoughts and emotions equal the vibrational frequency to draw to you that which you want or is for you. Unfortunately, they don't tell you what they mean by thoughts. It is much bigger than just thinking a thought. It is getting into mindfulness, where you are aware of the thoughts. As humans having a spiritual experience, we tend to overthink things based on an emotional attachment to the thought.
If you want "B" but you keep manifesting "A," then what emotional component of "A" is still being held on to. Getting into mindful awareness of what way in which "A" is familiar or comfortable that keeps you attached to that idea, situation, or relationship.
If we have been taught through experience, attached an emotion to a thought, then we are going to impact the thought with that attachment. IE: if I don't think I deserve money because I am bad (something in my early life taught me this), then each time I think of money it will be a bad or negative connotation of the thought; keeping me from the money, opportunity to have money, or anyway in which money could come to me.
This is were mindfulness comes in to play. Becoming aware of the emotion that a thought brings with it is the game changer. Change the emotional component of the thought from neutral or negative to positive, allows you to bring the thought/idea into your experience.
Another way to think about this is: you want a partner, but you always end up with a bad partner. What emotional component of the old partner are you still holding onto? Only thinking about what a most compatible partner would encompass is not enough. If you are holding on to the feeling of the "old" partner or relationship, then you are going to keep drawing to you what you do not want. You have to heal that emotional vibration of the "old" to be able to create the vibration for the new.
So, whatever it is that you are trying to manifest you have to be mindful of what you are thinking and feeling about the thought that you are using to manifest your desire. Are you harboring hurt, pain, unworthiness, deservedness, victimization, anger, grief, fear or any negativity around what you are wanting?
The three steps are:
Get into mindfulness about your manifestation
Heal whatever issue you have around this topic
Focus, focus, focus