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3 Reasons Why the Empath/Narcissist Relationship

Love is all we want. As humans the connection is vital to our survival. Relationships in all forms are where we thrive and grow. Romantic relationships are the goal for everyone to share love with another: emotionally, mentally, physically, and energetically. Romance, love, passion, desire…and all the rest can be intoxicating and easily addicted to when positively achieved. However, these relationships can also be the most painful when it is not balanced or harmonious for each person in the connection. The emotion of it can cause physical pain, psychotic breaks, and energetic black out. This connection when gone horribly bad can be the most destructive force. Why is the empath drawn to the narcissist, and why is the narcissist in need of the empath?





Empaths feel the energies around them. They pick up on the energy of a situation or person. They can feel and ingest energies: positive and negative. Often times with negative energies they are taking them in and transmuting them back into positive, helping the situation or person involved. Their ability to positively impact others is intoxicating to those in the depths of despair. Enter the narcissist. Narcissist as defined by dictionary.com is “a person who experiences or exhibits narcissism, deriving erotic gratification from admiration of their own physical or mental attributes.” These people have been broken, emotionally and mentally, putting them far down the emotional scale onto the lowest rungs of emotional intelligence and in extreme cases, energetic survival. This is how the dynamic between an empath and a narcissist is born.


In some cases, each party may not know their emotional type: empath or narcissist. One reason for this relationship is self-awareness. This self-awareness will help each party to then heal that which is going to help their individual growth the most. Some will do the work, and some will not. The important part in this step is recognizing what attribute you have. Until you recognize your role, you cannot understand the dynamic. This dynamic is where you either need to heal parts of your emotional growth or set boundaries to protect your emotional intelligence. Either way, there is a growth opportunity.


Secondly, it is to help bring you into your power. Both parties need to anchor their personal power. Trauma is the common denominator. The empath became more compassionate as a way to cope. The narcissist became more selfish as a way to cope. Both were survival modes. But, in the relationship there is an opportunity to reconnect with your personal power. Learning to have confidence, self-esteem, and taking control of your life are all a part of your personal power. By transforming your trauma from negative back into positive, you are able to heal that part of you that forced you into developing your emotional protection. (Seeking professional help is encouraged.) Thereby, gaining a new way to connect and develop personal relationships, especially the healthy, balanced romantic connection that is the goal.


Finally, this relationship dynamic is very relevant in the current energetic planetary climate. This is not new. With the energies on the planet shifting from a competitive, patriarchal system to a more cooperative, creative structure, there are those that are craving things to stay the same. As more compassion and love flow onto the planet, negative influences are trying to stem that flow. Having love, compassion, and cooperation become the normal operating system is being suppressed. Selfishness, greed, and power are trying to stem the development of people who are compassionate and loving. This is a shift from the Piscean age into the Age of Aquarius.


1. Sefl-Awareness

2. Healing and Evolution

3. Cooperation vs. Competition


These types of relationship dynamics will continue to develop to help each party and the collective energy shift. We are all evolving. Even though these relationships feel utterly destructive, there is hope that through understanding why it is happening, you are able to heal and grow. There is benefit in the end. (I promise.)


I have have been working in this field and I find working through the energetic connection can have the most profound effect to help transform the patterns, emotional tie, and heal the wounds associated with this dynamic. Click Me for more information.




This is part I of a IV series on this subject. I am using my experiential and intuitive abilities to bring forth the information from my innate wisdom.


Blessings, M xo


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